Previously, I posted questions about parent “fitness” and past parent involvement. Today, I have questions about parent/child relationships, child’s preference, living environment, support systems and lifestyle. As I mentioned at outset of this series, a custody or visitation dispute may involve some, none or all of these considerations. In making those decisions, the court must defer to the Best Interests of the Child Statute (previously posted). These questions are aimed at eliciting information from a parent that a court might find useful in making that determination.
Does the child confide in the parent?
Does the child respect the parent?
Does the parent respect the child?
What is the level and extent of communication between parent and child?
How does the child react to discipline from the parent?
How old is the child?
How mature is the child?
Can the child accurately assess what is in his/her best interests?
Has the child been pressured into a “preference”?
To whom and under what circumstances has the preference been expressed?
What is the basis for the child’s preference?
Home, School & Community Environment
Can the child continue in school activities where he/she will be living?
Are there kids their age in the community?
Will school or parents be able to meet special needs?
Is child involved in clubs, activities, etc?
Is location of home suitable for children?
What is location of school child will attend?
Any concerns for safety of the child in the neighborhood or at school?
Availability of Support Systems of Each Parent
New spouse and step-children
Other family members
Mental health professionals
Child care providers
The Lifestyle of Each Parent
Occupation and work habits of parent
Involvement in the community
Involvement in church
Excessive use of alcohol, drugs
Responsibility (how were decisions made during the marriage)
Social life (hours kept)
Exposure of child to new romantic interests.
Cleanliness of home
Legal custody is the right to make “legal decisions” on behalf of a child. Typically, these decisions are made in important areas such as medical care, education and religious training. Legal custody may be joint or sole. If parents have been awarded joint legal custody, decisions must be shared unless otherwise ordered by the Court.
What is the definition of physical custody?
Physical custody is the right to the child’s presence. It refers to where a child lives and who has responsibility for supervising the child at a specific time. Physical custody is often referred to as “visitation.”
Does the mother always win sole physical and legal custody?
No, there is no presumption in favor of granting custody to the mother.
How does a court decide which parent will get custody of a child?
The court decides all matters of custody and visitation by considering the child’s “best interest.” In this case, the child’s best interest refers to a set of statutory factors that a court must consider, including:
The court will hear evidence supplied by the parties and may refer the case for a custody evaluation. At times, a psychologist, family therapist, counselor or child development specialist may be employed to assist the parties in determining the child’s needs.
What are the rights of grandparents to visit grandchildren?
How may a grandparent gain custody of her grandchildren?
The court may grant reasonable visitation or custody to grandparents if it is determined to be in the child’s best interests. Grandparents seeking visitation must give notice to both parents. Generally, grandparent visitation will not be ordered if it conflicts with the rights of custody or visitation of the birth parents.
What about spousal or child abuse protective orders?
Protective orders, also referred to as restraining orders, can dramatically impact both a divorce and child custody action. An abused spouse may seek a civil and/or criminal protective order, which, among other things, may provide temporary child custody and support, and sole use of the marital residence.
What is the role of mediation in a custody/visitation disputes?
Mediation may prove to be a useful and economically alternative to contested child custody and visitation litigation. In mediation, a neutral third party assists the parties in reaching an agreement with minimal or no lawyer involvement.
What is the role of collaborative law in a custody/visitation?
Collaborative law is a relatively new model of dispute resolution. Unlike mediation, each party retains an attorney whose sole role is to aid the parties in a negotiation and settling of the issues. Both parties sign an agreement to provide information and documents. If either party decides to take the other to court, their collaborative law attorneys will not represent them and each party then must retain a litigation attorney. The benefit of a collaborative law resolution is that each party is assisted and advised by counsel at all times and is required to have legal counsel to participate.
If you’ve got questions about the information above, please feel free to drop me a line. Jason A. Weis, Esquire – Curran Moher Weis P.C. – firstname.lastname@example.org – 10300 Eaton Place, Suite 520, Fairfax, VA 22030 – 571-328-5020.
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